There are a lot of people who write about success and no doubt they make a lot of money out of telling people that they have the secret to success if you will just pay them to give you that one thing that will take you to new heights of financial security. The trouble is that the only person who secures that wanted success is the one selling to you that they have the secret. The reality is very different.
Before we look at success we need to ask just what success is. While money can be a part of success, it is definitely not the be all and end all. Mother Theresa’s idea of success is no doubt very different to the CEO of a large bank. The young sailor Jessica Watson’s idea of what it means to be successful is one thing and the success vision of a research scientist is another altogether. So let me say right at the beginning that I am definitely not in the business of telling you that your bank account is the flag you will wave when you reach your summit. Money can come as a result of your activity, but to seek it first will lead you into disappointment and emptiness if your private life is falling apart or you are unhappy in your career.
Let’s compare two seemingly very different perspectives. NFL coach Cal Stoll said : “Success is uncommon, therefore not to be enjoyed by the common man. I’m looking for uncommon people.” What can he mean? Doesn’t every success guru tell us that anyone can do it? Well the truth is that all of us can indeed achieve our dreams but the sad fact is that for many, they have been beaten down by circumstances, people, mistakes and even themselves. The end result is that they are left with a defeated attitude towards their ability to be anything but a failure in their own eyes. In the end it is safer not to try and end up disappointed. They don’t want to be hurt again. This is in fact the lot of the vast majority of people in the world. You may even recognise it in your own life. Only those who have reached their “snap point” where they can say “enough is enough!” will have the mental and emotional energy to not only start out on their journey to a brave new world but will develop the perseverance as well.
The other perspective seems to be the complete opposite. Maltbie D. Babcock says: “One of the most common mistakes, and one of the costliness, is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic, something or other we do not possess.” If you were to take this statement in isolation you would be forgiven for thinking that everyone is bound to be successful if they simply believe that they can do it. While I believe what Babcock says is true, we have to ask: “what then?” If there is no magic, no something or other, then what is it that we need to get to where we want go. I believe it comes to the “snap point” again. Those who have succeeded simply will not accept the status quo. They cannot live in a world as it is and set out to change it to suit themselves. We all have the same potential, albeit in different areas and talents, but we don’t all reach that point where we can say “I’ve had enough. Something IS GOING TO CHANGE!”
So before we explore what the tools are that will get you to where you want to go, I want you to ask yourself: “Have I reached that point in my life where I’ve had enough? Do I not only want more but am I willing to do what is necessary to get there?” There is no point in giving you the tools if you’re not interested in starting out on the journey. There is a huge army of people who go to seminar after seminar, who take whatever free downloads they can lay their hands on and yet nothing changes. For them it seems that success is a nice idea, like going to Fiji for a holiday, but they just don’t have the resources to get there. So I want to do just that, give you the tools to get there but you have to develop the resolve, the desire and the perseverance to set fire to your life and live it large.
So sit down and ask yourself these questions: “Do I care enough about myself, my family, my life, to change and grow into the full measure of the person I know I can be?” and “Do I dare to think, to believe, that I can do it?” If you genuinely answer yes, if you’ve seriously had enough of where you are, then my next post will be the start of a whole new journey that will take you to places you never thought possible.
Yes, not everyone can attain success but not because they are lacking anything tangible but simply because they don’t believe they are capable or even worthy. Are you an uncommon person? Starting tomorrow I will be publishing daily posts that I believe will give you the tools to get you where you want to go.